So, going with the mood I am currently in I thought it would be a good idea to make a short (but important) cheat sheet about the things that women need (yes, NEED) in a relationship. They are obvious but usually forgotten. Now you should know that this list wasn't generated by me alone. I asked the women I worked with their thoughts on this as well! So, if you are ready...(drum roll please)...here we go!
1.) The Sweet "Little" Things
This is probably the easiest to do. The "little" things are so simple! Opening the door; noticing that she took the time to look nice; sending/picking her flowers just because(she had a tough day or you know she loves them!); leaving a sweet note on her pillow or in her car; or even saying thank you for something she did. Doing the little things will endear her to you. You can do them every day because they are easy! (C'mon don't deny that they really are easy! You know they are!) A few small steps and consideration go a long way with women. Doing little things will let her know that she is special, treasured, appreciated and loved! (Now how does this not benefit you?)
2.) Remembering/ Listening
These two are important (soooooooo important)! Remembering and listening helps you to build and maintain a healthy relationship. When you listen and remember you are showing your special girl that you pay attention to her AND what she says, thinks, and feels is important to you. It builds trust, dude! That is something money can't buy!
3.) Honesty!
I know I just wrote about the gray areas in honesty, but if you paid attention that was in regards to certain (and extenuaiting) circumstances! Honesty is a very important corner stone in any relationship! Again, it helps to build trust!!! Now take into consideration that you should be honest, but be honest with a heart full of love. Let me explain...honesty can hurt, be brutal or cruel. DO NOT use that form of honesty on your girl!!! Unless you want to cause irrepairable damage!!!! Speak with her gently and kindly. You can be honest without being cruel!
4.) R.E.S.P.E.C.T
Respect goes a long and I mean loooooooonnnng way! Show respect in the way you talk with her (yelling, screaming, cursing, or shouting! That is a huge no, no! Be an adult and communicate productively and respectfully! You wouldn't want someone talking to you or your mother like that!) Say please and thank you (yes, when some men are comfortable in a relationship they forget their manners and that is not ok either!); be aware of your tone of voice; be aware that how and what you say has an affect!
5.) Humility
A healthy ego can be an attractive thing, but when it becomes an unhealthy, over inflated ego, nothing will kill romance and attraction faster! Never be so much of a "man" that you forget your manners (yes, once again that is mentioned) or to show appreciation! Do not talk about yourself more than anything or anyone else all that does is paint you as a selfish, braggart, and that is not sexy (at all)! Remember you are probably not the only guy after her or who wants her, but she chose you! Don't take that for granted!
6.) Pampering
If your first thought is, "Really? Are you serious!", then you need to turn down the selfish and turn up the understanding! Pronto! If your lady works hard outside/inside (or both) of the home don't you think she deserves it? She wakes up early to fix breakfast and lunchies; to get you or the kids (or both) of to work and school respectively before she even starts to ready herself to take on the world! Then she comes home to get the house in order, make dinner, do chores and homework before she even begins winding down for the day! She is a WOMAN, not a work horse!!!! Yet she does it all no matter how tired or sick or discouraged she may be, she puts on a smile and pulls through! And after a gruelling day/week why not offer her a backrub? Run her a bath, get her a giftcard to Massage Envy, make dinner, clean the house or do laundry for a change. Show her that you appreciate her and everything she does. Show her that she isn't alone, you are her partner and you have her back! You are her man, act like it by showing her that you can support and care for her the same as she does you!
7.) Time (and make it consistent)
We know you aren't God and you can't prolong or grant time(don't crack jokes you smart aleck)! But you can give us YOUR time. Time itself is fleeting that is why this is so important! Time helps to build bonds, but it also incorporates all of the other things I have listed! When you give of your time then you give of yourself and we not only notice but we appreciate it! It makes us feel special, treasured, important and appreciated! And truth be told it is mutually beneficial for you too. (It doesn't take much really to make and keep us happy.) Take her to lunch or for a walk in a park or even a movie marathon at home with just the two of you. Show her you want to be with her, near her, share moments and make memories with her. "Time" may be last but it is because it is one of the most important and should be remembered!
Well kiddies it isn't a complete list but it is an important one! Until next time I wish you love and happiness of the truest kind!
~ Marissa
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