We don't Try, We Do

We don’t try, we do...

As a child, my father would said this to me. At first it seemed like a cruel thing to say to a 10 year old trying her damnest; but as I have gotten older, those words still come to mind. My father was not perfect, like no one’s was, but he has been one of my greatest influences in my life. I find myself at 25 still quoting the many sayings he would throw at me. I love you Daddy, and thank you. If it wasn’t for you constantly pushing me, I would have not realize that I can do far more than I imagined. I can be anything of my choosing!

Ok, so back to the saying… We don’t try, We do. This very simple phrase is not meant to discourage any effort that has already been given; it challenges you to do more, to be more! I have to admit that the biggest frustration of my life is to see loved ones, just “try” and then defend the mediocre effort they have given. “Well at least I’m trying”, really gets under my skin. And honestly, I include myself in this equation. I cannot tell you how many years I have “tried” to lose this weight! I would think if I just work out a little bit, then the weight would just fall off. Eventually I would dropdown in size, and everything would be all gravy. But it’s not! I was trying, not doing. I was feeding myself false hope that I would get a big payoff out a little bit of effort. But hey, at least I was trying, right?

Life doesn’t work like that! We can’t continue to do the same things and expect different results. That is the definition of INSANITY! We have to stop kidding ourselves, take off the rose-colored glasses, and face our problems. We all possess the power to shape our world around us, it’s just whether we dare to want to be better than yesterday, and actually do something about it.

We are at the age where life starts judging us for our past mistakes and ask… “Well what are you going to do now?” “Are you going to continue to eat crap?” “Are you still going to sit around smoking all day?” “So are you going to continue to still waste time in unhealthy relationships?” “Are you going to continue to let the things you desire now distract you from the things you need to grow you?” “Can your children and family say they are proud of you?” “Are you still just trying to survive and not thrive?”

Are you still going to stand behind whatever excuse you have because it’s comfortable?

We are the movers and shakers of our generation, and the time for us to take over is coming soon. It seems like half of us have our shit in order, we get it! But the other half is lost, driven by the false sense of just “trying”. As we age, and continue to face real life situations, which side are going to choose? Being a person who “tries”, but never succeeding in their endeavors? Or a person who does, gets it, and prospers in their endeavors, because they have the strength and courage to live the life that they dream? Funny how a simple question of do or try can shape your entire life!

Much love, and well wishes

Finess
“I will never give up, I will never settle, for I dare to dream”

Leeches and Hummingbirds

     When you look up Leeches they are continuously described as:  "...any bloodsucking or carnivorous worm..."  there is no hidden beauty, purpose or meaning for these creatures.  Contrary wise when you look up Hummingbirds they are described as:  "...symbolizing the enjoyment of life and lightness of being..." as well as other lovely things.  Unlike leeches, hummingbirds have many different, beautiful, and symbolic meanings.  Even without the symbolism when we think of hummingbirds virtually incomparable beauty and awe come to mind unlike the skin crawling, teeth grinding horror that runs through our veins when we think of leeches.    
     I am not trying to give anyone a science lesson here, but I am trying to make a point.  When it comes down to it we have a choice to either be leeches or hummingbirds.  We can either decide to be leeches and feed off of others energy, draining them of joy, happiness and positivity or we can be hummingbirds.  Instead of feeding off of others we can uplift, replenish and share happiness, positivity and joy. That is why I want to encourage everyone to strive to be a hummingbird.
     Some days will be easy and others much harder to let your hummingbird spirit shine through, but fight through those difficult moments (and be the change you want to see in the world)!  Let us go forth into the world and let our spirits fill it with all the beauty it is missing.  Life is a precious and fleeting thing why waste your time in the muck and mire leeching off of others? Take to the skies and spread your wings.  Bring light and joy with you as you go through your day.  When you falter seek your fellow hummingbirds and let them uplift you.  It will be worth it, I promise.
     Don't let a leech suck away your spirit (EVER)!  And remember, they say birds of a feather flock together, and what better birds to flock with but other hummingbirds?   That's all I have for now, a little encouragement to get you through the rest of your week!  So let your spirits fly and until another time I wish you all love and happiness of the truest kind!
     ~Marissa