Friends, How Many of Us Have Them

It’s so hard to lose weight, isn’t it! You start off doing pretty good for the first couple of days, then “boom”, fall of that darn wagon, and back to square one. People can just as hard, if not harder to drop.

I have dropped over 3-4 people of dead weight in the last year. And boy do I feel great. I made the decision to no longer allow “friends” into my life who are not genuine nor capable of helping me grow as a woman. I looked at all the bull and drama that they created for themselves and me, and toke off running!

So how can you tell who these people are who do not have your best interest in mind?

1)      Look at your friends… do your goals and mindset mirror each other? Do they have to desire to grow, succeed, and be happy? Can you connect with them on a deeper level? If not, they may be dead weight.

2)      Do they support you in your endeavors? (They may not agree, but will back you up) Are they upset or negative when you have reached a goal, or made a change for the better? If not may have to let them go.

3)      Do you find yourself only talking about “ratchet” problem? Ignorant, silly baby mama or daddy foolishness all the time or how much they hate their job… But never try to make changes to better their situation. Wasting their money on useless things, then turn right around and complain about being broke? If so you may need to let them go.

Friends are here to: help and support, uplift and inspire, to hear your troubles and try to make you feel better, to be a part of your foundation as a person and build to highs unknown. You cannot build with negativity, back stabbing, vertex people (individuals who cause so much drama that they suck in all those around and create havoc in everyone’s life), jealously, and dishonesty. Take a good hard look at the people in your life, sometimes we have to let go for us to survive and thrive. Note I say “let go” not “get rid of”. I don’t believe in just throwing people away; sometimes when you change for the better, those around you can begin to change with you! Those who mean you harm will leave on their own. All you have to do is focus on your goal, and your dead weight will reveal themselves.

It’s never easy, but the happiness and peace that you experience when they are gone is heavenly! So good luck, stay strong, and always be true to yourself! Until next time,

Finess