Showing posts with label Quarter Life Crisis. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Quarter Life Crisis. Show all posts

Saturday, December 14, 2013

The Closing of Year 25

Hellooooooo!!!!! Hi everyone!!!

Long time, I know! But honestly I haven't had much to share, nor did I feel ready to share my feelings. Sometimes we have to take time for self. But I'm back!!!! And ready to spill my guts!!!

So Year 25 is coming to into the 4th quarter! I'm quickly approaching 26, and I feel wonderful! I feel brave, fearless, strong, loved, cherished, and most importantly wise... LOL well wiser! I have weathered the storms! Cried my heart out! Loved with all of my might! Chose to love myself first! Did things I never thought I could. Walked away from lover and friends! I have grown closer with some and farther away from others. I've seen the crazy that I can be, and also experienced the serenity of being ones true self. I have had lovers (well suitors)... LOL! And put a stop to manly foolishness in my life! But boy what a year!

Through all the many adventures I've had in my 25th year of my life, I have found a few things to be true...

1) Baby LOVE YOURSELF! Things and people will never be right or enough until you learn to be happy with just YOU. You will put up with people and situations that you do not deserve because you are too afraid to be alone. Trust yourself and your God. No one can live your life for you, nor should they. You are born alone and will die alone, why not get know the only person who love you the way God will love you, You!

2) Things are going to happen the way they are meant to. Don't get me wrong, we play a huge part in shaping our lives, but sometimes things are going to happen, so go with it. It's out of our control. And more often than not, the things we try so hard to hold on to are the very things that hurt us and stunt our growth. So please, if you have done all that you can, let it be. You'll be surprised how something better has come along after you let go!

3) Seriously... why so serious! Dude!!! Life is not that serious. Your problems are never so serious that you cannot find one thing a day to smile about. I've gotten to the point that I don't talk on the phone very long with people who seem to do nothing but complain, it's just not attractive. It's ok to vent and get it out, but gees honey, can we talk about pretty shoes now? LOL! I had to learn this myself. When things are bad in my life, I'll focus on the good, on the blessings. There is always someone out there who has it worse than you, so stop complaining, try to fix your problem, and be thankful! Smile beautiful!

Big lessons to learn in 3/4 of a year, but well worth it! I hope that everyone out there still in this Quarter-life Crisis with me is surviving and growing as well! We can make it, and will make it through! Live your life the best way you know. Try to find your happiness, and don't stop until you catch it. We are the future, no longer children, on the cusp of adulthood! Let's make our story on hell of a tale!

Until next time, don't forget to Smile Beautiful!

Finess ♡♥♡

Sunday, January 6, 2013

The Big 25

Today I am 3 months & 17 days away from my 25th birthday, and my entire world feels upside down! At 24, most (all) of my friends are 1) Married/Engaged 2) In hardcore committed relationships 3)Having children 4) Buying houses 5) Traveling the world 6) Have established careers, and I... am NO WHERE close to any of those millstones!

My older friends tell me not to worry about the Big 25, but for the first time in my life I feel like a slacker; like somewhere down the line between college and adulthood, I missed a few stops! I know I can't be alone out there! Hello... Hello... Young, attractive, smart, funny lady right here!!! Hello... Does no one see or hear me... Hello World!?!?

As I get closer to my epic day, my only survival method is to focus on my accomplishments, and tell the world repeatedly that I AM HERE! Whether it sees me or not I AM HERE!!! At 24, I have: successfully finish my Bachelors in 3 1/2 years, hired by the #1 company to work for in Atl, growing a budding catering company, and have my own (paying ALL the bills) home and car. I have loved and lost, lost and gained awesome friends, and met the love of my life... Boss!

So I repeat, regardless if anyone hears me or not, I AM HERE!!

With that, Hopefully the Big 25 won't feel so old anymore and my life clock will stop ticking so loud!!!

Till next time!
Finess